#Menggalau#

The Single Goddess Mantra

I am unique and individual.
I am constantly growing and discovering myself
and the world around me.
I respect myself, as I respect others.
I will only partake in healthy relationships.
I find contentment from within,
whether I am in a relationship or not.
When I do love, I love fully and completely,
and expect nothing but the same in return.

taken from : http://www.singlegoddess.com/


There are some aspects of single life that might,...maybe a woman has ever loved a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for the best one...;)
just wait in time.........................

Prostitution around us

i don't know why i really wanted to write about this controversial topic. But it's really interesting to see the differences between one culture to another. Here in Indonesia, there is also prostitution issue. But, you know it's forbidden. Prostitution we see in both sexes but women are in major percentage. In many cases theres maybe someone who force them for this due to economic reasons and many cases found that girls are lured to this profession by employment agencies promising to get good employment...
prostitution is illegal in many countries including ours, but let's see what happened in Netherlands...
i think everybody has known about the place called "Red light District". there you can "rent" a woman for doing some sexual jobs with variety price. Beside prostitution is legal in Netherlands, it has been defined as a form of work.

 i have a friend from holland who told me about this. He said that women who work in this area have to pay tax for this job too. It means that they are concidered have a "normal job" because everyone who works in any  major there, has to pay many taxes. The amount of tax that they have to pay depends on the amount of the income that they earn.

still for me, prostitution is a situation where men give women to an image of being a sexual object, men just want to statisfy their own fantasies through prostitution. I said this because a friend of mine showed me about a site and there were a lot of woman who promoted a great number of capabilities in doing sexual stuff with different prices. how sad they are!! Women have historically been (and maybe still are) victims of both direct and subtle forms of male oppression.
but for me, a kind of women like this choose their life to be a victim. They just show up that they are "weak" everytime! i know...there is nobody who wants to be a "whore" inside. Have a strength inside girls! thats the point!!!...you can be better than just to be whore!! By learning who you are, and discovering who you want to be, you can be YOU!

you don't have to be "strong", because a strong woman ussually won't let anyone get the best of her...but just be a woman of strength that always gives the best of her to everyone..:)

SPIRIT!!! XD

women DON'T envy a PENIS!

 i've just remembered about freudian theory that said women desire a penis....i laughed a little when the first time i read about this...:p but  well he had some reasons why he declared that idea. he said that the girl employs the defence mechanism of displacement to shift the object of her sexual desires from her father to men in general. wooow...it's just sounds like men are the most perfect creatures in the world and worthy to be followed! lol
in fact...women are worthier...:p (sorry guys, but we (women) are better observant and always draw conclusions from every single thing that you guys always ignore...:p) no..no...just kidding..we have the same chances, the same feeling, the same intellegence and of course equal right..:) we just psychally different...
Freud himself admitted that his understanding of women was limited...:p so, you have to understand a woman first before judging them lower guys..
basically, women are not analytical (i said this thing because it happend to me, im not good at analyzing  something) it means that women need men to do this area..(but still you guys need women more than women need you  :p) haha...
Of course, men and women still need each other for much more than some of the practical services that they are finding elsewhere.
I do agree that discussing as well as acting skillfully in the side of the differences between men and women can be difficult...
the point is..for me "womb envy" theory from Karen Horney in which men experience feelings of inferiority because they cannot give birth to children make more sense than "penis envy"
sooo...i think women never envy a penis....:p