Between love and sexuality...

last week, i joined a seminar about this interesting topic...Love, absurdity and sexuality...really like the way the speaker explained about this philosophical things....he said that a man and a woman complement each other physically, psychologically and spiritually. And sex is one of the way to show that they love each other.
so..could anybody tell me what is the meaning of love??? i think There is no definition of love because the word "love" can mean many different things to many different people. But there is a connection between love and sexuality..If we accept a connection between creation and sex, then the connection between Love and Sex is much more obvious...
We all know that "love" is a verb, and it means that love is an action...you should do something if you say that you "love" someone. If just by seeing him could show that your feeling that you "love" him, do it! and if you think that sex will make you get closer with someone you love, do it! but if you have a different idea about how to show your feeling, and you don't choose sex as a point, just don't! because you are the author of your life, you are the only one that have  right to do what you want to do! God never said that sex is a sin, thats why he created us as a male and female...but i just want to emphasize a point that it's important to analyze and discuss the influence and impact of patriarchal religion in this issue. Our religion is very patriarchal and it display this with dominance over the female body and the preservation of her virginity. If a man has fucked a lot of women around, no one will call him a bitch. But see what will happen to a woman if she did the same damn thing??? the world will judge her as a devil bitch!
in my opinion, its not a mistake if you want to have sex before marriage..but do it save, if you don't want to have AIDS as a gift! :p haha....but well, life is about choices...maybe i've never had sex until now.. but i just want it with the right guy, the guy who respect me, who knows who i really am... I wasn't going to say that i will do it after marriage...if i  found someone that i thought worhty enough to have sex with, i would!  eventhough im not married yet..and it doesnt mean that i dont believe in God.. i do believe in God, my religion...but i just don't like the way our institution manipulate this thing with its patriarchal rules...a woman has to stay virgin while a man doesn't have to...
But still you also have to think about your own personal values and feelings.  For me no matter what my feelings on sex are, it may be nice to wait until something "feels right", and there are other ways (if you are not ready yet for it), to feel physically close without having sex, right?? :)

Romantis yaaaah...-___-'

Percakapan romantis antara gw dan si dia pagi ini :

Gw         : yank, kamu masih enggak enak badan?

Pacar      : „enggak kok…kan obatnya kamuu…”

Gw         : #senyum- senyum sendiri#  „kamu gombal ih!“  (padahal seneng gw digombalin :p)

Pacar      :“ loh..kok gombal??? Emang kamu kaya obat kan yaank??“

Gw         :“kaya obat??? Oooh...maksud kamu aku bulet kaya obat?“  #emosi

Pacar      :“ bukan itu sayang maksudnya...^^”

Gw         :  #nyengir kuda lagi sambil gigit hape saking senengnya#  „terus  maksud kamu apa?“

                 #colek- colek meja karena enggak ada yang dicolek enggak sabar nunggu balesan sms#

Pacar     :  maksud aku..kamu pait yank kayak obat puyeer….

Gw         : @#$%#&@#(@#  *gigit gelas*

Belajar dari Upil

Gw terinspirasi menulis tentang si upil ini akibat percakapan bodoh diatas dengan para oges di twitter baru- baru ini.  Dimulai dari pembicaraan mengenai sebuah judul di Koran online mengenai kasus pembekukan warga yang sedang bepesta ganja, dan diakhiri dengan obrolan tidak jelas maksudnya mengenai “pesta upil” menyedihkan memang para oges itu…

Susi memulai obrolan seputar pesta ganja dari judul sebuah Koran online.

trisusilaw Yah ga jadi party nih kita @miranamira @rahrahmie :p RT @detikcom: 50 Kg Ganja untuk Pesta Tahun Baru Disita Polri http://t.co/k68ORuAp

miranamira  yaah..gimana dong?? Nyimeng dimana ini??hahaha...:p RT @trisusilaw: Yah ga jadi party nih kita @miranamira ... (cont) http://t.co/tKhFF5Es

kemudian, villi si pelor (nempel molor) mencoba mengkonesikan obrolan ini dengan otaknya yang setengah sadar.

Enggak nyambung--> Vili1203 @miranamira @trisusilaw gw ga diajak party :(  

trisusilaw @Vili1203 @miranamira party belom mulai lo udah bobok. Party selesai lo baru bangun -_- haha

si  oges ini semakin enggak nyambung---> Vili1203 @trisusilaw @miranamira haha iya juga siih... emang kalian mau party apa?

Doi masih nanya MAU PARTY APA??? Whaaaat the zonky! -_- viil, bangun viiil…..jelas- jelas si susi bercanda mau party ganja!

trisusilaw @Vili1203 @miranamira party ini pil → @detikcom: 50 Kg Ganja untuk Pesta Tahun Baru Disita Polri http://t.co/k68ORuAp

rahrahmie Biasa jg party pake susu ultra -__- T @trisusilaw: Yah ga jadi party nih kita @miranamira @rahrahmie :p RT ... http://t.co/B2W3jHC

trisusilaw @rahrahmie @miranamira @Vili1203 party sambil mabok lem :p

rahrahmie lo mah biasa mabok upil sih ya :p RT @Vili1203 @trisusilaw @rahrahmie @miranamira yah ko lem? g enak su... gmana kalo ,mabok coklat?? Nyammy

trisusilaw @rahrahmie @Vili1203 @miranamira hahaha mabok lem masih mending ya modal dikit. Mabok upil kan gratisan -____-

Vili1203 @trisusilaw @rahrahmie @miranamira ihhhh kalian jorok ihhh gw jadi eneg

rahrahmie RT @trisusilaw: @rahrahmie @Vili1203 @miranamira upilnya ogez dikumpul kan lumayan banyak :9

miranamira upil gw mahaal...RT @trisusilaw: @rahrahmie @Vili1203 @miranamira hahaha mabok lem masih mending ya modal ... (cont) http://t.co/XP4ULV2R

Vili1203 @miranamira @trisusilaw @rahrahmie gak ada juga yang mau upil u mirrr hiiiiiyyy haha

trisusilaw Inalillahi... RT @miranamira: upil gw mahaal...RT trisusilaw: @rahrahmie @Vili1203 @miranamira hahaha mabok lem masih mending ya modal

trisusilaw Bakarnya di dapur kosan RT @miranamira: gimana kalo pesta upil panggang?? Kaya barbequean gitu..:3 RT @rahrahmie @Vili1203

miranamira yasalam...TL gw penuh dengan upil -,- RT @trisusilaw: Inalillahi... RT @miranamira: upil gw mahaal...RT ... (cont) http://t.co/ck0iAvNQ

trisusilaw @Vili1203 @miranamira @rahrahmie udah ah udahan, mau ngupil dulu. Salam UPIL!

miranamira brb bersaing dgn susi berburu upil...RT @trisusilaw: @Vili1203 @miranamira @rahrahmie udah ah udahan, mau ngupil dulu. Salam UPIL!

Dan akhirnya percakapan tolol ini diakhiri akibat protes dari “upil” .

Upil yang protes namanya di bawa-bawa ---> uphillar Ada apa ini upal upil,bawa2 nama gwRT @trisusilaw: Inalillahi... RT @miranamira: upil gw mahaal...RT trisusilaw: @rahrahmie @Vili1203

tapi setelah obrolan enggak penting itu, gw mendapat wejangan bahwa gw harus mencari tahu tentang si kecil yang menggelikan itu (baca : menjijikkan).  Akhirnya antara sadar dan enggak sadar, entah bego enggak ada kerjaan dan rasa penasaran yang lumayan menghawatirkan, googlinglah gw…. Daaaan…dari sanalah gw berkesimpulan bahwa bahasa Indonesia adalah bahasa yang praktis dan unik. Dari sekian banyak bahasa, tidak ditemukan pengertian yang cukup menjelaskan si upil ini dengan satu kata saja sepertia bahasa kita.  Yang gw temukan malah percakapan bego antara orang Indonesia dan orang amerika di bawah ini :

American             : Ewww… what are you doing?
Indonesian           : Ngupil.
American             : What's that?
Indonesian            : #hening sejenak bingung# mmmm....cleaning your nose?

Dari percakapan enggak penting di  atas, kita seharusnya bersukur berbahasa ibu bahasa Indonesia yang kaya akan kosakata yang kadang suka enggak penting…

Well…berbicara soal si upil ini, ada beberapa hal yang bisa kita pelajari dari prinsip hidup upil yang enggak mengenal perbedaan dan mengajarkan kita tentang persatuan dan integrasi. Enggak percaya? Coba renungkan.. Dari hidung sexy nya Tobey Maguire sampai hidung sule yang agak abstrak bentuknya , upil enggak sombong…enggak pernah pilih- pilih tempat hidupnya…. Semua hidung dianggap sama. Yang beda itu Cuma kulit luarnya aja.. dan bentuknya pun sama.. enggak ada istilah yang namanya Tobey Maguire upilnya emas atau berlian…semua sama  kecil dan menggemaskan…hueeeks…#jijik  sendiri gw jadinya -_-#

Selain itu, si upil ini juga pantang menyerah. Kenapa gw bilang pantang menyerah? Karena si upil ini tak gentar walau ancaman tangan- tangan jahil manusia mencoba merenggut kehidupannya #halaah# , si upil tetap tegar, tumbuh dan tumbuh tanpa mengeluh  walaupun sudah beberapa kali dimusnahkan oleh tangan manusia yang enggak ada kerjaan selain ngupil.  Kita juga harus bisa seperti si upil ini, meskipun badai menghadang, cobaan tak henti datang, kita harus tetap bangkit, jangan menyerah dan fokus ke arah tujuan kita teman- teman! Merdekaaaa!!!! Hidup upiiil!!!!  

Ps : kenapa kita sangat bersemangat pada saat ngupil?? Karena upil itu kaya lotre, semakin kita belum bisa mendapatkan si upil yang nyempil di bagian dalam hidung kita, kita akan terus berusaha menggali keberuntungan kita mendapatkan si upil ini...(maaf enggak penting) #exit...

hidup itu pilihan!!! *galau version*

hidup itu pilihan,..lo harus rela ngorbanin salah satu buat ngedapetin sesuatu yang lain....
tapi salah ya kalau gw pengen serius ngejar cita- cita gw dulu?? gw enggak milih buat ninggalin dia kok... tadinya gw pikir, emang gw jahat, gw cuek, ga bisa perhatian sama dia...dia selalu nuntut waktu banyak,okee..gw pikir dengan ngejauh dan "ninggalin" dia sampe gw bisa sukses, semua pasti beres...ternyata emang enggak bisa...
gw harus rela ngelepasin dia...semua emang salah gw! gw terlalu ambisius...tapi, yang gw enggak habis pikir, kenapa cepet banget dia ngelupain gw? bahkan sebelum kita putuspun dia udah jadian sama orang lain!!! sumpah itu sakit banget! gw sayang banget sama dia...sayaaang banget! rasanya berat buat ngadepin kenyataan kalau hatinya sekarang bukan disini lagi sama gw....janji cuma tinggal janji...
tapi enggak apa- apa...gw bisa kok sendirian...mungkin tiga tahun itu enggak akan bisa diganti sama tiga tahun yang lain....tapi yang jelas, gw harus bangkit...merhatiin dia dari jauh dan tau dia udah bahagia sekarang, udah cukup...
gw enggak akan berusaha buka hati buat orang lain juga...
dia udah bahagia ...enggak ada alasan lagi buat gw sedih (seharusnya)....
selama gw tau kabarnya udah sangat lebih dari cukup...
yah,,,sekarang gw sangat sadar kalau hidup itu emang pilihan...pilih salah satu, dan relakan yang lain....
sekarang gw udah mantap sama pilihan gw harus jadi orang sukses...jadi, ayo lakukan mir! jangan loyoo...lo udah mengorbankan hati lo..jadi jangan setengah- setengah! keep doing your best, you're gonna walk on, gonna make it happen!! ;)
ayooo semangat miraaaa!!! nanti pas kita ketemu lagi, gw mau dengan bangga dia akan bilang "dia pernah jadi bagian hidup gw" .....

Multikulti = integration = Asimilation ?

Deutschland ist ein grosses Land mit vielen Auslaendern. Stuttgart, Frankfurt am Main, Nuernberg, Ausburg, Muenchen, Duesseldorf, Koeln, Wuppertal, Bonn und Dortmund sind die Staedte mit dem hoechsten Anteil von Migranten. Am hoechsten ist die Stadt Stuttgart mit 41% Migranten, die von verschiedenen Kulturen sind.

Im Kontakt mit Angehoerigen anderer Kulturen treten des oefteren Missverstaendnisse auf. Deshalb mussen wir wissen was eigentlich multikulturelles Leben und Integration bedeuten. Integration bedeutet beibehalten der Kulturen Indentitaet der Gruppe mit dem gleichzeitigen bestreben, mit den anderen Gruppen zu kommunizieren und engere Kontakte aufzubauen. Wenn man die Bedeutung der Integration richtig versteht, kann man naturlich im Multikulturelles Leben verwirklichen. Multikulti ist die Situation wo jeder Mensch in einem Land oder in einer Stadt "Miteinander" leben kann. das beweisst dass sie die Anderen respektieren, und mit ihnen umgehen. Jeder Mensch hat das Recht auf eine eigene Meinung, Religionsfreiheit, und Gewissensfreiheit. Aber wir mussen auch beachten dass unsere Freiheit die Anderen nicht stoeren darf.

Hier in Indonesien sind die Bewoehner auch von verschiedenen Kulturen und Religionen. das ist auch nicht ohne Konflikt. Zum Beispiel in Jakarta gibt es viele Konflikte wegen der verschiedenen Kulturen, weil die Bewoehner in Jakarta aus verschiedenen Staedten kommen. Was fuer mich wichtig in diesem Konflikt ist, dass wir noch nicht die richtige Asimilation machen. Asimilation bedeutet Aufbau von positiven Beziehungen zu einer anderen sozialen Gruppe.

#Menggalau#

The Single Goddess Mantra

I am unique and individual.
I am constantly growing and discovering myself
and the world around me.
I respect myself, as I respect others.
I will only partake in healthy relationships.
I find contentment from within,
whether I am in a relationship or not.
When I do love, I love fully and completely,
and expect nothing but the same in return.

taken from : http://www.singlegoddess.com/


There are some aspects of single life that might,...maybe a woman has ever loved a bad man once or twice in her life to be thankful for the best one...;)
just wait in time.........................

Prostitution around us

i don't know why i really wanted to write about this controversial topic. But it's really interesting to see the differences between one culture to another. Here in Indonesia, there is also prostitution issue. But, you know it's forbidden. Prostitution we see in both sexes but women are in major percentage. In many cases theres maybe someone who force them for this due to economic reasons and many cases found that girls are lured to this profession by employment agencies promising to get good employment...
prostitution is illegal in many countries including ours, but let's see what happened in Netherlands...
i think everybody has known about the place called "Red light District". there you can "rent" a woman for doing some sexual jobs with variety price. Beside prostitution is legal in Netherlands, it has been defined as a form of work.

 i have a friend from holland who told me about this. He said that women who work in this area have to pay tax for this job too. It means that they are concidered have a "normal job" because everyone who works in any  major there, has to pay many taxes. The amount of tax that they have to pay depends on the amount of the income that they earn.

still for me, prostitution is a situation where men give women to an image of being a sexual object, men just want to statisfy their own fantasies through prostitution. I said this because a friend of mine showed me about a site and there were a lot of woman who promoted a great number of capabilities in doing sexual stuff with different prices. how sad they are!! Women have historically been (and maybe still are) victims of both direct and subtle forms of male oppression.
but for me, a kind of women like this choose their life to be a victim. They just show up that they are "weak" everytime! i know...there is nobody who wants to be a "whore" inside. Have a strength inside girls! thats the point!!!...you can be better than just to be whore!! By learning who you are, and discovering who you want to be, you can be YOU!

you don't have to be "strong", because a strong woman ussually won't let anyone get the best of her...but just be a woman of strength that always gives the best of her to everyone..:)

SPIRIT!!! XD

women DON'T envy a PENIS!

 i've just remembered about freudian theory that said women desire a penis....i laughed a little when the first time i read about this...:p but  well he had some reasons why he declared that idea. he said that the girl employs the defence mechanism of displacement to shift the object of her sexual desires from her father to men in general. wooow...it's just sounds like men are the most perfect creatures in the world and worthy to be followed! lol
in fact...women are worthier...:p (sorry guys, but we (women) are better observant and always draw conclusions from every single thing that you guys always ignore...:p) no..no...just kidding..we have the same chances, the same feeling, the same intellegence and of course equal right..:) we just psychally different...
Freud himself admitted that his understanding of women was limited...:p so, you have to understand a woman first before judging them lower guys..
basically, women are not analytical (i said this thing because it happend to me, im not good at analyzing  something) it means that women need men to do this area..(but still you guys need women more than women need you  :p) haha...
Of course, men and women still need each other for much more than some of the practical services that they are finding elsewhere.
I do agree that discussing as well as acting skillfully in the side of the differences between men and women can be difficult...
the point is..for me "womb envy" theory from Karen Horney in which men experience feelings of inferiority because they cannot give birth to children make more sense than "penis envy"
sooo...i think women never envy a penis....:p