Between love and sexuality...

last week, i joined a seminar about this interesting topic...Love, absurdity and sexuality...really like the way the speaker explained about this philosophical things....he said that a man and a woman complement each other physically, psychologically and spiritually. And sex is one of the way to show that they love each other.
so..could anybody tell me what is the meaning of love??? i think There is no definition of love because the word "love" can mean many different things to many different people. But there is a connection between love and sexuality..If we accept a connection between creation and sex, then the connection between Love and Sex is much more obvious...
We all know that "love" is a verb, and it means that love is an action...you should do something if you say that you "love" someone. If just by seeing him could show that your feeling that you "love" him, do it! and if you think that sex will make you get closer with someone you love, do it! but if you have a different idea about how to show your feeling, and you don't choose sex as a point, just don't! because you are the author of your life, you are the only one that have  right to do what you want to do! God never said that sex is a sin, thats why he created us as a male and female...but i just want to emphasize a point that it's important to analyze and discuss the influence and impact of patriarchal religion in this issue. Our religion is very patriarchal and it display this with dominance over the female body and the preservation of her virginity. If a man has fucked a lot of women around, no one will call him a bitch. But see what will happen to a woman if she did the same damn thing??? the world will judge her as a devil bitch!
in my opinion, its not a mistake if you want to have sex before marriage..but do it save, if you don't want to have AIDS as a gift! :p haha....but well, life is about choices...maybe i've never had sex until now.. but i just want it with the right guy, the guy who respect me, who knows who i really am... I wasn't going to say that i will do it after marriage...if i  found someone that i thought worhty enough to have sex with, i would!  eventhough im not married yet..and it doesnt mean that i dont believe in God.. i do believe in God, my religion...but i just don't like the way our institution manipulate this thing with its patriarchal rules...a woman has to stay virgin while a man doesn't have to...
But still you also have to think about your own personal values and feelings.  For me no matter what my feelings on sex are, it may be nice to wait until something "feels right", and there are other ways (if you are not ready yet for it), to feel physically close without having sex, right?? :)